Okay so there is this girl that I like, and she likes me. You would think, might as well be in a relationship right? We known each other for 3 months. After the first 6 weeks you know we do the friend thing, just hang out and talk. Sometimes we cuddle, and kissed each other on the lips a couple times. No big deal right? I asked her out. I liked her and she claimed she liked me. She says "I don't wanna be tied down, not right now." "Alright.. but you kiss me and trust me and like me like that you claimed." "It's complicated let's just leave it like we are, just think of me as your a girl who you like and care about with no major attachment." I was okay with it.
After that we started going farther. Like she gave me a hand job, I fingered her and such. Started making out more. That just complicated things... but we loved it so we kept going with it.
After a month or so.. we are having sex. She was a virgin before this. So I asked her if she felt tied down to me. She said "No, I'm free to do what I want to but I don't want to do anything but spend time with you" I said "So what your saying is, you care about me" She said "I love you" Woah, HOW CAN YOU LOVE SOMEONE BUT NOT COMMIT? I said oh and I kissed her and she fell asleep, I left, and I left her a note saying "My parents called and they want me over something came up, I'll text you later then call you"
About a week ago this girl asked me if I wanted to go to a movie. I said sure why not.That didn't change, so thats what I thought of her as.Think of me as a girl who you like and care about but have no major attachments to
The day of the movie, she texted me and said what you doing later? I said going to a movie with a friend. She replied "oh with who?" I told her. She got mad at me. WTF I mean for real? So I didn't go to the movie. I told her I decided not to go, and wanted to spend time with her and she got mad because I didn't go, and she made plans with her bestfriend! Note: I canceled the date in 5 minutes. I was thinking seriously JUST MAKE UP YOUR DAMN MIND! Why get mad about me going, then get mad because I didn't go, and wanted to spend time with you.
I mean I care about her a lot. I think I do love her. It's just complicated. What should I do with this? Treat it as a relationship or just act like she's my friend with benefits? (I hate that, it's pointless, but is that what she wants?)