Getting Your Girlfriend....(ah Yeah)

[Haze]

To the guys of the forum who already have a girlfriend, do you mind sharing how you got together? Ive been single for some time now and there have been a fair share of ladies but I've yet to feel the feeling, the "spark", that you hear about in magazines,tv, whatever. I am wondering if maybe I am not giving ladies enough time for that spark to develop or if it should be there all along?

I did relationships for awhile and I feel like I have a good amount of advice on them, but as far as being single goes...

There have been some girls Ive seen that I can feel it, but it's a random stranger or classmate I don't know; the dilemma.

[Jason]

Well, my girlfriend and I go together over 3 years ago. She was dating one of my best friends a few months before we started dating, but they both found that they weren't right for each other. I had this huge crush on her (while they were dating even) and we had a lot in common. We started out friends for a long time, which developed into a relationship. That's why I think the whole "Friend Zone" thing is bullshit. I think that if you're with someone you love, they're pretty much your best friend as well.

[Haze]

I agree, the "friends zone" isn't as bad as people make it out to be. You can use them as wingwomen or to meet their hot friends! And you never have to rule out the fact that you two are interested in each other! I also find the "i dont want to risk our friendship" to be silly bs.

[KR_Paradox]

So I have been together with my gf for 8.5 months now (6.5 of those LD). Our meeting is one of those random coincidences that is just unexplainable. It starts with me just talking to a friend on Facebook one Friday evening. We always bull shit about the stupid stuff. At one point the conversion became a philosophical circle jerk about the definition of a circle, line, and point. I knew someone had been typing on his account and was trying to mess with me. I was bored so i went along with it and basically we were just trolling each other. What had happened is my friend all of a sudden had to use the bathroom so bad he forgot to lock his computer before he left. So he cam back saw this facebook chat then asked if I wanted to hang out with him and this girl. I sad ya sounds fun. He came and picked me up and we went back to his apartment. There we played PS3 for a while and had a few drinks. I thought the girl was really fun. My buddy had to go help a friend for a while so me and her were just sitting and talking in his apartment. We had a bit in common and we were both very different. But one thing we shared was that each of us had a portion of our lives that gave us a unique perspective and appreciation for life. One other thing we had also talked about is how much fun it is outside in the rain. Before the night was over we had exchanged numbers. The next few days we texted quite a bit. On Monday it was raining and I thought hey a perfect chance to hang out again. So I asked her if she wanted to go play in the rain since we had talked about that on Friday. Note that I was not in ANY WAY looking for a gf at this time. I was still burned from my last relationship and was going to be doing a 7 month internship and I refused to do LD again. She said ya and by the time we got out the rain had stopped. So we just walked and talked again. I realized that I like her a lot and have never felt this strongly about a person I just met. She had all the personality traits that I would look for in a gf and she it hot to boot. In my head I thought, "Fuck it. What do I have to lose." Then I kissed her and that was that. We walked more paths that night then sat in her car and watched the lighting. Also, I learned later that she thought the thing was a date the whole time and wondered what was taking me so long, while I thought it was just two friends hanging out.

TL;DRIf my friend had not needed to take a wicked shit and left his computer unlocked I would not have met my current gf.

[Ammoseller]

Hahaha, we men are always criticized for being the horny ones when it's the women that always want us to make a quick, decisive move. A paradox, if sorts, if you will.

[KR_Paradox]

Kind of to go off of Ammo's comment, I think it is important for a couple to have the same sex drive. Me and my current gf have chemistry in every way. We have a good amount it common and a good set of differences. We have a strong chemistry. Also we have pretty equal sex drives. That way every time we start a disagreement I know I just have to wait till I am feeling in the mood and I know she will be and then it is *poof* argument gone.

[WhiteFalcon]

I met my last gf over a community-page , we texted a bit and then met each other, I liked her, we talked alot , she was quiet different to me and we didn't had many equal hobbies etc. but I began to like her and she was cute, so jeah, thats how it started.
At the moment I'm also single, but I know from about 4 Girls that they want a Relationsship with me. The bad thing is, they are all not really cute / hot , I mean they are not ugly, but as always, I can only have a relationsship with a (in my opinion) hot & cute girl, or the relationsship will break soon.. -.- so thats why I'm still single lol... I'm going to a birthday party of a nice girl tomorrow (Friday) so i hope to meet some new girls, I don't think the girl thats celebrating her birthday wants more than just friendship from me, but who knows... Anyway, I'm too shy to go to a unknown girl and ask her if she wants to go out :/ thats my problem

[Jason]

I don't believe sex drive is so much a big deal as you think, KR. Well, at least if you want a long lasting relationship :P Fucking your problems away doesn't really get rid of them, it just puts them on the back-burner.

Though: Sex is important to a relationship. It's typically a good sign that you are connecting with each other and comfortable with each other.

unless you're sluts :fp:

[Nick]

For my last girlfriend, I really don't know how it happened to be completely honest. It was about a year ago, we just kind of had a class together, we started texting each other, then we were hanging out after school and something just sparked I guess.

[yanney]

started dating my gf in 8th grade as one of those little kid relationships, were still together to this day.

[Nick]

started dating my gf in 8th grade as one of those little kid relationships, were still together to this day.

How old are you now?

[Sup-homie]

How old are you now?
I think somewhere he said they had been together for 6-7 years so that'd put him in the 19-21 range.

[KR_Paradox]

started dating my gf in 8th grade as one of those little kid relationships, were still together to this day.

Ya, right now I am in my second major relationship. Had a handful that lasted less than 3 months but only two where I had really thought about the relationship long term. My first one was started in 10th grade and ended around Feb. of my freshman year. It was good until a unfortunate circumstance opened my eyes that I was dating someone based on what I thought they could become instead of what they are. But a major congratulations to you Yanney not many people can do that. Are you planning on tieing the knot anytime soon?

[Sup-homie]

I'll have been dating my girlfriend for 16months tomorrow, when I met her I was just horsing around with my friends and I saw her and I was just like "Woah." I hadn't ever felt anything for anyone like that and it just had hit me. Shes my first "real" girlfriend (I've had a couple like 2 weekers herp a derp) and I'm extremely happy with her right now :3.

[yanney]

How old are you now?
19

[Djzzero]

With one of the people I went out with in the past, we met from a friend in a club in College. We started talking more became friends then she asked me if I wanted to go running with her (i wasn't really interested during that time, but got interested later on). After awhile I asked her friend if she was single, and she told her and she knew straight out I asked her friend to ask if she was single, haha she thought it was cute then we got together in a time span from dating etc. Yeah we just got together from working out and just doing what we love doing. We broke up last year just stayed friends but it's weird when you say "spark" even though we aint together we see each other every 2-3 months but we always feel that spark, but she's with a boyfriend so i'm not messing that up. She even said she still feels the spark, maybe I should pursue if she's single again haha.

[TACO_HATER]

Met my girl 2.5 years ago at a fair(My ex-friends ex-gf's older sister) We didn't talk for like 2 months due to not being able to lol. I had a bit of a crush on her from the time I met her(she was beautiful and just amazing personality got my interest right away) I found out she thought I was hot through her cousin(Who I was hooking up with at the time lol). And started working my way to get to her(I just wanted a quick fuck/hookup). After those 2 months passed I liked her a lot when we started actually getting to hangout( about once a week or every2 weeks) we started getting closer having fun etc.. We knew we liked eachother but decided not to do anything for a bit. At that point I started really falling for her(We started actually seeing eachother) and to be honest the time has flown since I've met her. We have never gotten into a fight about something besides me or her being upset about something else and just venting at eachother which happens on occasion but never actually argued yet. Though we have had tough times(I almost cheated twice though I couldn't bring myself to do it :/) At this point we are starting to get really serious and I can honestly say I think I may be in love with this girl..

[Haze]

taco, 2 years and you think youre in love?? I was in love after 2 months lolz!

So from the jist of everyone's stories, there does seem to be a spark. not only physical appearance but also intellectually. the problem is I have found girl(s) that I spark for but well... one is married D: (were both 20...) and the others all have boyfriends (they are the easiest to befriend..)

damn sexual tension with single women

[Nick]

How do you know when you're in love? I've told people I love them before but I'm reallly not sure what I even mean by that...

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[hitman47]

Sure is LJ in here... But I guess that's what this forum is for

On topic: never had a girlfriend, and it's not looking like I'm gonna get one very soon. I don't mind that much though, I'll wait it out

[TACO_HATER]

taco, 2 years and you think youre in love?? I was in love after 2 months lolz!

There is a difference dude trust me. It's just something completely different.

[Djzzero]

There is a difference dude trust me. It's just something completely different.

I agree, it's tough to say you love someone until you feel that "love spark". Agreed!

[Haze]

I agree, it's tough to say you love someone until you feel that "love spark". Agreed!

Very true. and I dont mean to offend Taco, just seems like two years of dating is a long time before falling in love. I guess missing the spark is what has kept me single for awhile now